CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR DIVORCE

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR DIVORCE

When you announce your engagement, it is natural for people to congratulate you with great excitement and immediately glare at your ring. When you tell people that you have just separated, however, the acceptable etiquette is to produce a piteous sad face, accompanied...
ON BEAUTY

ON BEAUTY

An Ode to Literal & Metaphorical Gates It may sound strange that during the past couple of years as I found myself locked behind a ‘Maple Curtain’ and cut from my European roots, I was dreaming of beautiful gates.  But during a particularly challenging period of...
ON THE FEAR OF B-S

ON THE FEAR OF B-S

Perfect is the enemy of good, says the postet on my computer, reminding me to let go of my obsession with perfectionism. While perfectionism has its obvious benefits, namely, striving to do a good job, writer Elizabeth Gilbert strips perfectionism off its romantic...
The price of truth

The price of truth

“Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth,” wrote Katherine Mansfield. Taking risks and facing the truth had been my guiding principle throughout much of my...
Authenticity in the age of online dating

Authenticity in the age of online dating

“Be the person you want to attract,” said my friend Trish to a mutual friend of ours who had just turned 40 and seemed to have attracted “all the wrong men.” I was merely a substitute in their conversation, sitting quietly in the corner, memorising yoga sutras. We...